How to Accept Good with the Bad

How to Accept Good with the Bad

Many good things have happened in your life. However, bad things are going to happen as well. Your reaction to those bad things and your attitude about them can make them easier to deal with or more difficult. To get help learning to accept the good with the bad, you may want to understand the initial stage of processing bad experiences, remind yourself of some fundamental attributes for success, and get a solid understanding of what you need to remember during the bad times.

The Initial Stage

When something bad happens, the initial stage is filled with conflicting emotions that may paralyze you temporarily. You need to work through these emotions so that you can reach a stage of readiness to deal with the issue. In the post, “Secrets to Mastering Misfortune: What to Do When Things Go Massively Wrong,” the author provides insights for getting through this stage including the following:

  • Allow your emotional reaction – Do something that allows you to get that unhealthy emotion processed so that you can move to the next step. Be cautious, however, that you limit the time spent in this initial stage and that you don’t engage with others so that you don’t make matters worse.
  • Step back – Emotions can fog your ability to think clearly and thinking clearly is what you need to do to make good decisions. Once you’ve allowed your initial emotional reaction, you now must look at the situation from another perspective so you can begin to take practical logical action.
  • Talk to someone – A person whose opinion you respect can help you look at things more objectively. This person can also commiserate with your emotional reaction and help guide you to the resolution side of things.
  • Find a reason – While in reality there may not be a specific reason for what occurred, by searching for a reason, you may be able to imagine some potential positive outcomes of the event.
  • Play the tape to the end – By realizing the worst case scenario and planning how to deal with that potential, you now have a plan that you can tuck away should the worst happen. This allows you to focus all of your attention on resolving the issue now so that it doesn’t become worse.
  • Reach out – There are many resources that might give you insights into what you are experiencing and how other people handled a similar situation. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel.
  • Ask for help – It is an innate human reaction to want to help others; let others help. When reaching out for help, be clear that you are looking for thought-based suggestions and ideas, not people to invite to a pity party.

By moving through the first stage, you now have an emotional balance, plans that you can implement, and resources you can rely on. You are ready to move on.

Success Attributes

In the post, “10 Things Successful People Do When Things Go Wrong,” the author reminds us of characteristics that can help you accept the good with the bad. People who can move through adversity often share some characteristics including the following:

  • Be adaptable, resilient and determined. Having a plan B ready helps you move forward.
  • Be grateful for what you have achieved, concentrate on future successes and maintain a realistic optimism.
  • Learn from your failure. Assess what went wrong, find the lesson, accept it and take it with you on your next venture.
  • Understand that failure is often a prelude to success. Assess your skill set and see how they can be improved. Spend more time on networking and building relationships.
  • Ask for advice. Not only can these people provide insights based on their experiences, but they are also upbeat, confident and can boost your morale.
  • Be persistent and courageous.

These characteristics help you deal with the bad while still acknowledging the good.

Remember

Everyone is going to experience bad times and failures. The post, “8 Things to Remember When Everything Goes Wrong,” offers suggestions that can provide comfort and direction including the following:

  • When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Remember your lessons learned and understand that good things take time. Stay patient and positive.
  • Everything is temporary. If things are good right now, enjoy it. It won’t last forever. If things are bad, don’t worry because it won’t last forever either.
  • Worrying and complaining changes nothing. Take action instead. Let what you’ve learned improve how you live.
  • Every little struggle is a step forward. In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it.
  • Other people’s negativity is not your problem. Don’t let others sidetrack you from your goals.
  • Being able to fully enjoy your life requires trusting your intuition, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning through experience. It’s a long-term journey.
  • Keep going. Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. Even if you fall short, keep going. Keep growing.

Take care of yourself by thinking positively, eating healthy, exercising daily, worrying less, working hard, laughing often and sleeping well.

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